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When you start looking beyond the 'Why'?

When David lost his newborn son, he chose to worship God. 

David prayed to God for the baby. David fasted and went into his house and stayed there, lying on the ground all night. The elders of David’s family came to him and tried to pull him up from the ground, but he refused to get up or to eat food with them.

On the seventh day the baby died. David’s servants were afraid to tell him that the baby was dead. They said, “Look, we tried to talk to David while the baby was alive, but he refused to listen to us. If we tell him the baby is dead, he may do something awful.”
When David saw his servants whispering, he knew that the baby was dead. So he asked them, “Is the baby dead?” They answered, “Yes, he is dead.” Then David got up from the floor, washed himself, put lotions on, and changed his clothes. Then he went into the Lord’s house to worship. After that, he went home and asked for something to eat. His servants gave him some food, and he ate. David’s servants said to him, “Why are you doi…


Some of the cities I have lived in have what they call bypasses.  A road or highway that avoids busy areas of a city and allows traffic to flow without interference from local traffic. I love using these. You avoid most traffic jams, and usually get to your destination more quickly than if you had driven through the city. Brilliant.
Another type of bypass is a coronary bypass surgery, where a surgeon bypasses the damaged arteries of the heart, creating a new pathway for blood to flow more freely. Brilliant.
Sometimes, I have thought it would be wonderful for grief and pain to have a 'bypass'. Wouldn't it? That too, would be brilliant (in the moment). Yet, I am learning that there is no bypass, even if you attempt to take one. If you don't deal with the pain now, it will still be there, needing to be dealt with in the future. 
Grief can be delayed but it will not be denied. Sometimes we aren't given a choice, but to defer our grief. Sometimes our family situation, o…